A desire for confidence is a God-given need.  Notice Joshua’s need for confidence as he takes on the responsibility of leading the millions of Israelites to the land of Canaan, after Moses’ death. 

  Joshua 1:5-6 “No man will be able to stand before you all the days of your life. Just as I have been with Moses, I will be with you; I will not fail you or forsake you. “Be strong and courageous, for you shall give this people possession of the land which I swore to their fathers to give them."
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   Everyone wants to feel confident and adequate.  Emotional maturity is marked by a feeling of confidence.  There is a peace and good feeling that accompanies confidence in our abilities.  We should try to build these up in our children and others as well.

Can the search for confidence and power be bad?

  Yes.  When that search leads to conflicts and struggles for power it’s not good.  Unfortunately, some individuals will never feel secure unless they are in control.  They believe they must be in command to gain security.  Some children will test every rule you lay down to gain a feeling of power.  Why?  They are attempting to prove their strength by breaking the rules.  So that’s why as parents we must set limits and boundaries.  Kids are pushing the buttons to learn how much control they really possess.   When boundaries are not enforced our children become insecure.  If we give into childish demands and manipulations for power we all lose because it only reinforces negative behavior. 

Application:
  As a parent, be strong and courageous!  Limit the power struggles and build confidence in your children with positive praise and encouragement.  Enforce the boundaries and limits that you establish in your household.  Realize that these same concepts apply to you and your relationship to God and the world around you.